Sunday, April 3, 2011

Using A Theory In Getting Back Your Ex

By Matthew Harrington


If you have been undergoing a breakup in your relationship, it should be cause for you to do something about it. Maybe you would like to have another go at repairing your partnership. Thinking of it could make you imagine that it is quite impossible but there is hope for you. Here are some things you could do to get your ex back.

Form the right kind of mindset, so that your thinking can encourage you to forget the past negative things and start thinking of the good things that can help the relationship when you get her back.

There is what is called "cost and reward theory". This means whenever two people start a relationship, each side wants to see the cost and rewards.

Needless to say the rewards ought to be greater than the costs to keep each partner happy. If the order is reversed, then it becomes too costly to keep the relationship going smoothly.

Use this theory to work for your relationship, whereby you ought to make the rewards outweigh the costs. It makes the relationship become more attractive to both partners. The higher the rewards, the more interested your partner will be in the relationship.

Here then it the point where you should be asking: what is the role each partner should play to add more value to the partnership? Values such as trust, loyalty, security and happiness are very important so you must work on them seriously.

What about the side of costs to the relationship? You are to check where the costs will arise from so that you can take the necessary steps to seal those loopholes. Reevaluate your character, lifestyle, attitude and personality. Do the necessary adjustments.

Do what is necessary to maintain a good progress report as per the costs and rewards evaluation sheet. This way your ex will be happy to have you back; a new person.




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