Saturday, April 30, 2011

Relationship Advice for Men Look at Evolution to Find a Mate

By Eidorian Tan


What is the best relationship advice for men? What should men know if they want a relationship to work for the long haul?

The best single piece of relationship advice for me is to quit doing what women say they want and to start watching them to see what they actually display that they want.

How will you be able to do this? Perhaps you can start by looking at the kind of men they choose to have a relationship with.

Women say "I want a man who listens to me." They choose the man who dominates the conversation. Women say, "I want a guy with a good sense of humor." They date the guy who has money.

Why is it that women say they would like to have one type of man but end up going out with a guy who is the polar opposite? This answer rests in the subconscious motivators for starting and staying in relationships. And therein rests my relationship advice for men.

The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, she's still looking for a good papa for her children.

The criteria for acquiring the role as 'good father' doesn't necessarily include someone who will listen to her, but it does include someone who has the potential to provide for her and her children. Her confidence in his ability to earn a living is a key piece of this puzzle.

Most women want men who can give her the comforts of life. Given men's physical structure, they can produce sperms up to their ripe age of 90. Women on the other hand, have only about 400 chances of getting pregnant. For this reason they would want to have a man who can ably and reliably take care of her and their babies' needs.

When a man meets a woman and subsequently informs her that he's a lawyer, not just a paralegal, his chances of getting her to be his girlfriend or spouse are much improved. This is because her perception of his ability to provide is high.

Don't think that money is the only thing women are looking for in a potential father for their children. They also want to know that a man is generous with his resources and will spend what's necessary to provide for their children. This may be why women place a great value on expensive gifts like jewelry. This shows that he's not selfish and he's willing to part with his finances for someone he cares about.

This is also the reason why the size of the stone in an engagement ring becomes a big issue. More than being a symbol of a tradition and romance, it is also a material display of a man's capability to provide for her and their future babies.

In addition, even though modern humanity makes more money from their brains than from their brawn, women still think that physical strength equals a man's ability to provide. This is why there are times when a woman will choose a man who has a physical job than the computer geek or the accountant.

You want a relationship advice for men? Go figure what the girl of your dreams really, really want in a man, and once you know it, do everything you can to give it to her.




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