Thursday, April 28, 2011

Complicated Relationships And Divorce

By Raven Ross


Somehow, it feels like your marriage is not the same as it was when it first started. In other words, 'free-falling'. Maybe you're still thinking 1001 ways to save it, or you're a step ahead and already hiring a lawyer to file the divorce. Still, are you sure about your feelings?

You might be thinking like that, but as long as you still have the words 'like' and 'maybe', you are not ready for divorce.

How do you know if you don't love each other, then? You and your partner should feel it. Talk to your husband about it, and then together and calm-headedly decide if it's the right time to end it and start to file the divorce.

The other thing that may contribute to this bad term in your marriage is affair. Is your husband trapped in an affair? Then, you need to make it clear that it's either you or the other her. Not both; pick one. If he thinks his affair is more important than you, it a fact that you need to take action and file divorce.

Or maybe he is in an affair but he has promised to change. But he actually still does that and the promise is just some empty words. Sugar coated words. If he does, then it rather means that he thinks his affair is better for him or he's just being complacent. Talk to him and set all things straight. If he doesn't change, then it's the end.

The other thing that may be the core of the crack is affair. Is your husband having an affair? Or worse, is it affairs? If your husband prioritizes his affair over this marriage, then it's game over. Affair and marriage will not work together, as black is different from white.

Your marriage might be over the critical line, but is your marriage healthy? Do you get abused by your husband - not limited to physical abuse? Then it's not love. Like a lion covered in sheep's wool, it's just his true self with fake love icing.

Honesty is important in relationship, and make sure it lives among your marriage live. Talk about your problem, about how you think he's abusing you, or just simple conversation like how's his day will strengthen your marriage. If he keeps lying to you, then it's the time to cut the string, once and for all.




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