Saturday, February 5, 2011

Wanting To Get Your Ex Back? - Take It Slow

By Mae W. Oxford


It really hurts when you come to know after a long solid relationship with your partner that he/she has been cheating on you and now is leaving you. You definitely want to win back your partner but at the current time you are chaos and your emotions are mixed and scattered.

It is not that once the partner leaves you, he/she cannot be won back. But you need to be careful enough. If you act in hurry giving no proper thought to the damage that might occur because of you being in perplexed situation, the chances of making your partner come back to you becomes lesser.

The first thing to be done is looking into the matter and identifying what made the situation occur. The cause of this major step by your partner if identified can help you a lot in your future planning. If you both had an argument and you were at fault, it's better to leave him/her alone for some time.

This will provide an opportunity to the ex partner to deal with his/her feelings which got hurt because of the quarrel between you too. It will also make him/her realize that the distance between you and him/her cannot be maintained for long hence the separation will be useful to you in winning back the partner.

But if the fault is yours and you made the split occur, you better be sorry for it and apologize to your ex partner. Tell your ex partner that you are sorry for the causing the pain and you really understand how it feels when one gets hurt. Confess your fault and leave the rest to your partner to think about.

Contacting the ex soon after the dump and requesting for relationship rebuilding might not be the wisest decision. Hurt feelings require time to get normal. If you give time to your ex, he/she will be willing to meet you and talk about the new start. You can then win the ex back easily.

Once both you and your ex come over the mixed emotions and the pain of separation lessens, its time you arrange a get together. This however is a critical phase and should be the initial step for you and your ex to rebuild the broken relationship. Therefore make sure you are friendly, pleasant and warm with your ex partner in this meeting.

Have patience! Only patience and your considerate act will provide a solid ground for the split relation to rebuild. Gradual efforts towards rebuilding the relationship will be more fruitful.




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