Is mankind a polygamous animal? If this is the case, why do we suffer so much when our spouse commits adultery? when that happens we have two choices, leave our partner or decide that we are going to make it through together no matte what.
The reason why it's so hard to get over an affair in marriage is just that, we are not polygamous by our very nature just like some of the mammals and birds as mentioned above, but because we have a strong tendency to think that we are we do commit adultery and then regret it.
The truth is that it's very hard to get over an affair because it affects us emotionally, physically and psychologically, and all our senses are in turmoil when we are the one who has been cheated on.
One of the worse thing you could do though, is ask someone outside of the marriage about what you should do. Each individual has their own opinion about affairs and how to react about it, but that would only reflect their own ideas, not yours. Only two people can make this kind of decision and it's you and your spouse. And only you can make the decision to stay in the marriage or to leave it.
This article will intend to show you why is it important that you and your spouse be the ones who make the decision that would be best for the couple and particularly for the spouse who was cheated on.
A lot of people are making the mistake of wanting things go just like they were before the affair, however, this is a huge mistake. If the affair occurred, it might be a sign that things were not that great in the marriage to start with. So, what you really should be doing is try to make things better between you and your spouse, not the same as they used to be.
One of the worse thing you could do though, is ask someone outside of the marriage about what you should do. Each individual has his or her own opinion about affairs and how to react about it, but that would only reflect their own ideas, not yours. Only two people can make this kind of decision and it's you and your spouse. And ultimately only you can make the decision to stay in the marriage or to leave it.
Making the decision to stay or leave the marriage.
There are many different things to consider when you are trying to answer the question, should I try to make the marriage work or is it jut not worth it? The most important thing to consider is if the spouse who cheated is still in love with their partner or not.
If the reason for the affair is lack of love, it would be very difficult to rebuild a real relationship on lack of love. On the other hand, if there is still love between you and your spouse everything is possible even after an affair.
Another important question to ask is if the affair is totally over with without a doubt. If you have any doubt that this is the case, you need to make sure in order to make room for reconciliation.
Last but not least, is the cheating spouse truly sorry for what happen and gives you all the signs that will never happen again. Only then there would be very good probability for reconciliation.
The reason why it's so hard to get over an affair in marriage is just that, we are not polygamous by our very nature just like some of the mammals and birds as mentioned above, but because we have a strong tendency to think that we are we do commit adultery and then regret it.
The truth is that it's very hard to get over an affair because it affects us emotionally, physically and psychologically, and all our senses are in turmoil when we are the one who has been cheated on.
One of the worse thing you could do though, is ask someone outside of the marriage about what you should do. Each individual has their own opinion about affairs and how to react about it, but that would only reflect their own ideas, not yours. Only two people can make this kind of decision and it's you and your spouse. And only you can make the decision to stay in the marriage or to leave it.
This article will intend to show you why is it important that you and your spouse be the ones who make the decision that would be best for the couple and particularly for the spouse who was cheated on.
A lot of people are making the mistake of wanting things go just like they were before the affair, however, this is a huge mistake. If the affair occurred, it might be a sign that things were not that great in the marriage to start with. So, what you really should be doing is try to make things better between you and your spouse, not the same as they used to be.
One of the worse thing you could do though, is ask someone outside of the marriage about what you should do. Each individual has his or her own opinion about affairs and how to react about it, but that would only reflect their own ideas, not yours. Only two people can make this kind of decision and it's you and your spouse. And ultimately only you can make the decision to stay in the marriage or to leave it.
Making the decision to stay or leave the marriage.
There are many different things to consider when you are trying to answer the question, should I try to make the marriage work or is it jut not worth it? The most important thing to consider is if the spouse who cheated is still in love with their partner or not.
If the reason for the affair is lack of love, it would be very difficult to rebuild a real relationship on lack of love. On the other hand, if there is still love between you and your spouse everything is possible even after an affair.
Another important question to ask is if the affair is totally over with without a doubt. If you have any doubt that this is the case, you need to make sure in order to make room for reconciliation.
Last but not least, is the cheating spouse truly sorry for what happen and gives you all the signs that will never happen again. Only then there would be very good probability for reconciliation.
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