Thursday, December 29, 2011

Why Popular Advice Is Useless If You Want To Get Your Boyfriend Back

By Katie Babenko


Have you thought of going the traditional path when trying to get your boyfriend back? Are you tempted to listen to the advice of so called professional? Find out what is really going to help you to get your boyfriend back.

Are you confused over all of the different ways that you are told you can get your ex boyfriend back in your loving arms again? With so much conflicting advice pointing you in so many different directions it is easy to wonder what you should do. With celebrity therapists telling you to do one thing and trained psychologist suggesting that you head in completely opposite direction in your bit to get your man back it can make you wonder if anyone is right. What should you do and what is the answer? How can you get your ex back?

Even though many of the so called professionals out there might have studied psychology in books and sat through lectures, you have to wonder what their goal is and whether what they have in their cranium can actually help you to get your boyfriend back. Every day is like torture and you just want to get back together with your man. You could care less about what they learned in college and if you're anything like me, you have neither the time nor the money to waste on many of the so called professionals.

You have to think about what will be involved in visiting a counselor or therapist with the aim of gaining advice on how to get your boyfriend back. In advance, you should know that it will probably take you several weeks of meeting with a professional just to help them to understand about your relationship and what might have gone wrong to begin with. In addition, most of these people are not interested in helping you to get your boyfriend. They are in the business of healing hearts and helping you get over the rejection and get you moving on to the next relationship. This is just the way they roll and if they can get you to fall in love with someone else then the pain will go away, right? Wrong!

There are folks out there though that are in the business of helping others to get back together with an ex. They might not have an office and their advice is usually less than main stream but the stuff that they have to share with you is the advice that will help you to turn things around and help you to change your ex's mind about your breakup. Many people who fall into this category might have a background in psychology but they soon find out that the it can be very rewarding to help others to reunite with a person that they truly do love.

For me, that was what I wanted when my boyfriend and I broke up. I wanted information that would help me to get over the pain from my breakup by getting my boyfriend back. It made sense to me and I knew that there must be information out there that would help me. Yes, I tried talking to counselors and talked to my pastor but all they encouraged me to do was to move on and find someone else. So, if you're anything like me and your goal is to get your boyfriend back the experts are going to be of little use to you.

Once I understood what I needed to do I focused on my goal and got the best advice I could find on how to actually go about improving my relationship and myself and repair what had become broken. I saw that there was love in our relationship but that things had spiraled out of control and it was up to me to fix it. I could no more turn my back on my boyfriend than I could on a part of my own body and my heart was tied to his forever. I missed him and I loved him and I was determined to get him back.

You might be in the same situation and you might have everyone around you telling you to give up on your dream of getting back together with your boyfriend. Your friends and family mean well but it is your life to live and they just don't love your boyfriend the way that you do. They will fall into line and be happy for you once you do get back together but in the meantime, dream your dream and know in your heart that you can make it come true. You might have difficult days and it will always take longer than you might hope but even if your boyfriend walked back in the door tomorrow it would be too long. But isn't he worth it and isn't your relationship worth the time and effort to repair? If you are serious about getting your ex boyfriend back then I encourage you to follow your heart and your dream.




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