"I want to save my marriage"; these words become more common these days. To rework on a marriage that is on the verge of a breakup is a Herculean task. It needs a lot of dedication and perseverance from both the partners to save the marriage. The biggest challenge is to revive the trust and faith on which this relationship was built on. In this article, we list out a few ways in which you can save your failing marriage.
When faced with an impending breakup, each individual has four options placed in front of him or her. You can either opt for a complete break up and move on with life like nothing of great value was lost. Try to infuse sense into your spouse and talk them out of the breakup. Show the positive part of the relationship and plead with them to stay back. Wage a full fledged war against your spouse for betraying you. Accept reality and bounce back to reclaim your spouse by working on the relationship.
If you have decided on the fourth option, then, you will find the following tips helpful. You and your partner need to make a list of what you expect from each other and what you want the other person to work on in order to bring the relationship back on track. Limit yourself to a list of 10. Share this list with each other to ensure clear understanding. Be open to feedback and make amendments to the list if required. Once you have frozen on the list, it is important to abide by it.
Sit back and think about what went wrong and why the relationship took a hit. See the mistakes that were committed by both of you. Don't be biased; be realistic. Once you have realized what went wrong, ensure that you don't commit the same errors again. Learn, improvise and move forward.
Keep your temper under control. There will be times when you want to yell at your spouse for putting you through this tough phase of life, but, don't do it. This can only add fuel to the fire and worsen the relationship that you both have decided to work on.
Don't ever blame your partner for things going wrong though it may seem very tempting. Appreciate him/her for the efforts he/she is putting in willingly to rework on the marriage. Complaining pushes you away from your partner but praising helps in bridging gaps. Don't get into arguments with your partner when they are trying to express their feelings to you. Instead, be patient and listen willingly. Show that you care.
When faced with an impending breakup, each individual has four options placed in front of him or her. You can either opt for a complete break up and move on with life like nothing of great value was lost. Try to infuse sense into your spouse and talk them out of the breakup. Show the positive part of the relationship and plead with them to stay back. Wage a full fledged war against your spouse for betraying you. Accept reality and bounce back to reclaim your spouse by working on the relationship.
If you have decided on the fourth option, then, you will find the following tips helpful. You and your partner need to make a list of what you expect from each other and what you want the other person to work on in order to bring the relationship back on track. Limit yourself to a list of 10. Share this list with each other to ensure clear understanding. Be open to feedback and make amendments to the list if required. Once you have frozen on the list, it is important to abide by it.
Sit back and think about what went wrong and why the relationship took a hit. See the mistakes that were committed by both of you. Don't be biased; be realistic. Once you have realized what went wrong, ensure that you don't commit the same errors again. Learn, improvise and move forward.
Keep your temper under control. There will be times when you want to yell at your spouse for putting you through this tough phase of life, but, don't do it. This can only add fuel to the fire and worsen the relationship that you both have decided to work on.
Don't ever blame your partner for things going wrong though it may seem very tempting. Appreciate him/her for the efforts he/she is putting in willingly to rework on the marriage. Complaining pushes you away from your partner but praising helps in bridging gaps. Don't get into arguments with your partner when they are trying to express their feelings to you. Instead, be patient and listen willingly. Show that you care.
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