Are you killing your chances of getting your ex back and working against yourself in your attempts to get your ex back? Are you your own worst enemy and is it hurting your chances of getting back together with the one you love. See how you can turn it all around and start being optimistic and happy about your ability to get your ex back. Be sure that you will get your ex back before too long!
If you are worried that your chances of getting your ex back are slim to none then you are in the right place. If you fret and worry about the fact that your ex is either seeing someone or going to start seeing someone thus ruining your chances to get them back then you might be killing your chances of getting them back. If there is a black cloud over you and you are sure that things are over yet you wish you could get your ex back then you are fighting against yourself.
Doubt and a lack of confidence in your ability to get your ex back can be a huge stumbling block when trying to get your ex back. While it is perfectly natural to miss your ex or to be at a loss for exactly how things are going to work out, having a negative attitude towards yourself, your ability to get your ex back or in your relationship in general may be holding you back. After all, your mind and your thoughts are the starting point for anything good or bad that happens in your life. If you feel that you can't get your ex back then you are probably right. If you feel that you can get your ex back then you are also probably right.
Right after the breakup it is perfectly normal to cry and feel depressed and upset. The rejection that you have received from someone that said that they loved you is enough to take the wind out of anyone's sails. You are lonely and you feel terrible. But there comes a time when you need to make a decision. Are these feelings, thoughts and emotions helping you at all to get your ex back? You have choices and your choice is to either allow these feelings and thoughts to remain in the front of your mind or you can get rid of them. You can replace these thoughts with ones that will actually help to build your confidence in yourself and your ability to get your ex back.
You can at any time turn things around in a moment. If you feel those doubts and dark thoughts coming upon you just make a conscious decision to do away with them. Instead of thinking gloom and doom think of times past when you with with your ex. How did it feel when your ex looked at you with love in their eyes? How sweet did it sound when they told you that they loved you. How tender were your ex's kisses and did you have any inside jokes that you can think of that still make you smile? Take a moment in private and think of these things and relive those moments as if they were happening right at this very moment in time.
Another trick that you can and should try out is to spend some time thinking about how you want things to be for the two of you in the future. This means everything! How do you imagine things will come together for the two of you when they do finally decide that they want to get back together with you? How will you know that your ex is falling for you again? Will you be able to tell when you are able to make your ex laugh again for the first time? Will it all happen quickly or will it be over a matter of days or weeks that your ex will come back to you? What will it sound like when your hear the words I love you again and what will your response be? Let yourself dream and visualise these moments and experience them as if they are happening right in front of your eyes.
When you try these exercises you will find that you feel wonderful inside, but there may be moments when doubt comes crashing down around you. Maybe something bad happens or you just fall back into that trap. Try not to get too upset about it and realize what it is. Get back on that horse and fill your mind with those positive thoughts and you will find that this happens less often as time goes on. Eventually it will become habit and you will do it without even thinking. Your life in general will become better and you will actually feel happy again. People, in general, like to be around positive, upbeat people and your ex is no different.
Keep your new found secret to yourself. While you might want to tell everyone that you are positive that you will be able to get your ex back, this trick and your new found optimism might cause people to think that you're a little nuts. After all, the norm is to spend a lot of time crying or being angry and bitter or wanting to beg and plead with your ex to come back. Most people fall into some degree of depression and resort to behaviours that will never really help them to get their ex back even if that is what they really want. They allow doubt and negativity to eat up precious time and they never really do anything positive to try to get their ex back.
If you are worried that your chances of getting your ex back are slim to none then you are in the right place. If you fret and worry about the fact that your ex is either seeing someone or going to start seeing someone thus ruining your chances to get them back then you might be killing your chances of getting them back. If there is a black cloud over you and you are sure that things are over yet you wish you could get your ex back then you are fighting against yourself.
Doubt and a lack of confidence in your ability to get your ex back can be a huge stumbling block when trying to get your ex back. While it is perfectly natural to miss your ex or to be at a loss for exactly how things are going to work out, having a negative attitude towards yourself, your ability to get your ex back or in your relationship in general may be holding you back. After all, your mind and your thoughts are the starting point for anything good or bad that happens in your life. If you feel that you can't get your ex back then you are probably right. If you feel that you can get your ex back then you are also probably right.
Right after the breakup it is perfectly normal to cry and feel depressed and upset. The rejection that you have received from someone that said that they loved you is enough to take the wind out of anyone's sails. You are lonely and you feel terrible. But there comes a time when you need to make a decision. Are these feelings, thoughts and emotions helping you at all to get your ex back? You have choices and your choice is to either allow these feelings and thoughts to remain in the front of your mind or you can get rid of them. You can replace these thoughts with ones that will actually help to build your confidence in yourself and your ability to get your ex back.
You can at any time turn things around in a moment. If you feel those doubts and dark thoughts coming upon you just make a conscious decision to do away with them. Instead of thinking gloom and doom think of times past when you with with your ex. How did it feel when your ex looked at you with love in their eyes? How sweet did it sound when they told you that they loved you. How tender were your ex's kisses and did you have any inside jokes that you can think of that still make you smile? Take a moment in private and think of these things and relive those moments as if they were happening right at this very moment in time.
Another trick that you can and should try out is to spend some time thinking about how you want things to be for the two of you in the future. This means everything! How do you imagine things will come together for the two of you when they do finally decide that they want to get back together with you? How will you know that your ex is falling for you again? Will you be able to tell when you are able to make your ex laugh again for the first time? Will it all happen quickly or will it be over a matter of days or weeks that your ex will come back to you? What will it sound like when your hear the words I love you again and what will your response be? Let yourself dream and visualise these moments and experience them as if they are happening right in front of your eyes.
When you try these exercises you will find that you feel wonderful inside, but there may be moments when doubt comes crashing down around you. Maybe something bad happens or you just fall back into that trap. Try not to get too upset about it and realize what it is. Get back on that horse and fill your mind with those positive thoughts and you will find that this happens less often as time goes on. Eventually it will become habit and you will do it without even thinking. Your life in general will become better and you will actually feel happy again. People, in general, like to be around positive, upbeat people and your ex is no different.
Keep your new found secret to yourself. While you might want to tell everyone that you are positive that you will be able to get your ex back, this trick and your new found optimism might cause people to think that you're a little nuts. After all, the norm is to spend a lot of time crying or being angry and bitter or wanting to beg and plead with your ex to come back. Most people fall into some degree of depression and resort to behaviours that will never really help them to get their ex back even if that is what they really want. They allow doubt and negativity to eat up precious time and they never really do anything positive to try to get their ex back.
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