Wednesday, October 19, 2011

If You Are Not Doing These 2 Things Than Your Marriage Will Suffer

By Sarah Scott


Most important things first, whatever the reason your marriage is coming apart, I am going to share with you is 2 ways that you can enhance your marriage. Other information you see all over the internet are just surface level advice that doesn't get to the roots of why your marriage is crumbling. Yes, a good and healthy relationship has communication, trust, passion, and intimacy. Couples who are not struggling in their relationship have 2 things in common.

1. Be Aware of Your Partner

Are you aware that lack of intimacy, communication and passion are all stemmed from the same issue? Lack of awareness. These days, stress and negative feelings due to stress makes "zoning out" simple. Watching television, browsing the net, watching sports and so forth are how we relax from a busy day but if you like to do these activities rather than connecting with your partner, than your relationship will suffer.

This is when you have to "wake up" and become more conscious of your environment, your emotions, and your marriage. If you are sleep walking through life and allowing outside distractions to stop you from connecting with your partner, than your marriage will head down the wrong road.

This doesn't mean you should avoid hanging out in front of the television or getting lost in a book, it is only damaging to your relationship if you would prefer to do other things than connect with your other half. With awareness and mindfulness, you will become curious about your spouse. You may remember your partner as their own person with their own hopes, dreams and fears. Many times, when we get stuck in a relationship "rut" we forget to connect in a deep way with the person we fall asleep next to every night.

When you're with your other half, be in the moment. Breathe that moment in. Practice being in the present moment when you are with your partner instead of worrying about the past and the future. This is going to help you and your partner create more chances to connect in a deep and meaningful way.

2. Accept What You Can Not Control

Not resisting your reality will help you accept circumstances without adding unneeded pain or suffering. Permit whatever happens to be okay. This doesn't imply that you can't feel your feelings and be upset. This only means to not fight the situation by attempting to change it. If you and your other half are fighting because of different viewpoints, rather than being upset because you can not get them to change their mind, just accept that your partner has their own thoughts and feelings. When you let yourself be a "yes" to what comes your way, you get a better chance of decreasing conflict and finding a solution to the issue. Remember, you can only control your own thoughts and feelings, and you can't control what your other half wants.

Another example of not resisting something is when you do not EXPECT anything out of your other half. You love and accept them for who they are, and ensure you avoid putting your partner in a box or on a pedestal. These tips may appear too simple but they're essential to having a healthy and prospering wedding.

Discover exactly what you can do to improve your marriage using this Relationship Advice.

What if you just can't get your marriage back? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your relationship is, but if you want to really make your spouse's heart sing for you again you will need to learn a single method that works surprisingly well.




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