Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Divorce Advice For Men - 9 Tips You Need to Know

By mark Thompson

Marriages are sassy, divorces are messy. They are best avoided, especially if you have kids. However, if there is absolutely no chance of saving your marriage and you have to go through with a divorce, then here are a few tips that can help you out:

1. Lawyers are in business. They want to make money and the longer your divorce drags on the more money they make. It is in your best interests to find a lawyer who will try to get a settlement as quickly as possible. Ask around before hiring a lawyer and make sure you interview several before appointing one. If possible ask for references.

2. Make sure you find a good location to store all your personal and financial records. You should be the only one with access. Get yourself a new post box where you can have private mail sent to.

3. Cancel your credit cards and close all joint accounts you have with your wife.

4. Do not cut off all communication with your wife keep the lines open. You never know, one fine day she might just talk to you and settle the whole thing amicably, without any bad blood. Remember, if you stop communicating, things will go from worse to worst-ever.

5. If you have kids this can be the hardest part of any divorce. Keep in contact with them and make sure that they know they are not to blame. Let them know that you are always there for them.

6. Do not destroy any old correspondence in a fit of rage or when you become emotional. The written word counts, the spoken word doesn't in a court of law.

7. Do not pass nasty comments about your wife either to your friends or on her face. Your friends might snitch on you, or the word will get around and then the differences will be more irreconcilable. Why create bad blood, when there isn't need for any?

8. Don't be aggressive, remain calm. If your wife is an aggressive person, avoid getting into arguments with her.

9. You will need some emotional support, don't be afraid to use friends and family to help you through this difficult time.

Divorce can be a really horrible affair. There are many experts and lots of good advice available to you. Use this, search the internet for advice from people who know what they are talking about. There are several online products that can give you all the advice you need to ensure that you get what you want from the divorce not what your wife wants to give you.

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