Monday, January 16, 2012

Ways to Destroy A Marriage

By D Smith


Many marriages and dating relationships fail years before the loving couples meet. The exposure to a value system that promotes the acquisition of material possessions has a direct affect on our development as children. We learn early in life to take control of our material possessions.

Selfishness tends to show it self early in most marriages as many men and women tend to think of their spouse as one of their personal possessions. Instead of looking at the relationship as a partnership, one party feels that they have the right to control or enslave the other person to do things that are beneficial to them. These people have a hard time grasping the reality that people should not be thought of as a material item.

As a married person, many feel that their spouse is now their possession and that they can control their life. One thing that many people do wrong is rely on old traditions of marriage and try to claim title over the person they marry. This is a big problem as the once healthy dating that took place, now turns into nagging and fighting. The marriage counseling industry has been booming in recent years due to these among other marriage problems.

One of the big problems with marriage is that there are so many conflicting ideas when it comes to marriage. Different theories and books have become part of the huge marriage and divorce business that is dominating America over the last 20 years. While some of these ideas may be good, who is to say what is the right way to run everyone's marriage.

Dating relationships that lead to marriage is the fundamental social institution deeply rooted in all societies. To uphold and defend the institution of marriage, we must place emphasis on the truth. The institution of marriage should not be built on the traditional foundation of the past. The institution of marriage must be built on a strong foundation representing truth, sincerity, sacrifice, and cooperation, mutually putting our desires and opinions to bay.

One problem that many people do is try to change the other person or make them act a certain way. While it is good to give in somewhat to your spouse and be objective, a person that tries to change someone will only end up being divorced after a while. One of the number one causes of divorce these days, is individual trying to impose their opinions and beliefs on their spouse after they have not changed to how they like.

It is possible to make marriage work if both sides are willing to compromise and accept their partner for who they are. Many marriages meet and early end when problems occur with possessiveness with one another.




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