Wednesday, September 7, 2011

How Can Divorce Affect the Persons affected and Their Families?

By Nicola Garnavault


Divorce rates have risen significantly during the last decade internationally. Divorce can be attribute to many cause, but the emotional toll it takes, is unthinkable. Not only the people concerned , even those related to them, are influenced by the split. Just recently, studies have established the emotional toll it takes on the people and those related to them, with kids being most affected.

Judith S. Wallerstein, conducted a thorough research on the effect divorce has on children. Here official results are released, which are truly stunning. Not only during the time of divorce, even post the split and well into their puberty, kids are still influenced due to divorce. They continually live under fear and have a fear about marriage and getting youngsters often.

While youngsters aren't accountable for divorce, many children think they are! Not only that, few kids, even try to do everything feasible to fix things. If they think their bad behavior was responsible, they try to be good, or they try and be bad and get the attention of their split folks, so they can reconcile.

Kids really feel dejected, sad, insecure, forsaken and are overpowered by stress. They're also angry about the chance happening and feel helpless when they're not able to make a difference. One more problem rests with the custody. The children feel torn between their mother and father and long for the warm feelings and love, they once got in a family set-up.

That's not all. The people who are contemplating a divorce, endure mixed feelings in the process and struggle tough to come to terms, post divorce. They actually start to feel unsure, get into substance addiction and ruinous behaviors. Even their family also undergo an emotional chaos during this phase.

Most individuals don't prefer going for divorce counselling and that exacerbates the issues further. While girls do get influenced, because of the responsibilities, they get back to basics sooner. Men take longer time to come to terms with the change and right about turn, their life has taken.

While not everybody marries, thinking they will divorce one day, when it eventually happens, it is a nightmare happen! Everybody would have assumed their love lasts forever and they would have had dreams about satisfied fairytale endings. While there are several issues that culminate and lead straight to divorce, expectancy appears to be the leading culprit.

Understanding the issues and learning to accept one's spouse with love, is what matrimony is all about. Forgetting and forgiving is a very important part of life and life appears a load more better with love. While no one will need to adjust with an abusing spouse, if there's a way to fix the relationship, it's a must try, instead of opting for a divorce.




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