Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Get Him Back - What To Do When Your Ex Contacts You

By Kathy Babenko


Has your boyfriend or husband started contacting you and you're thinking that this might be it! He might be on his way back into your loving arms again? Find out what you need to do to keep from blowing it and what you can do to ensure that you get him back!

Your ex just sent you a message, and your heart leaps out of your chest. You see possibilities of getting back together again. But wait! Breathe. Calm down. Your next move just might revive your relationship, or finally devastate it beyond repair-it's a tricky time, so don't celebrate just yet!

After all, there could be many reasons why he got in touch with you. He could just be lonely or his contact could be just to tie up loose ends after the breakup. He might be feeling badly about how things ended between the two of you or he could be beginning to feel that loss from not having you in his life anymore. Either way, this contact is your chance to do your thing and actually make some headway in recreating that connection and getting your ex back for good!

Acting cool and as if nothing's wrong is a useful way to get him wondering. Keeping the aspects of your personal life to yourself will make him curious! He'll wonder why he's curious, and realize he wants to be part of what he's not seeing-and he'll work harder to get you back. Remember, what has value is worth working hard for, and what is worked hard for gains more value. Your attention is part of what he values, so that curiosity is to your advantage!

As you work to get your ex back, try not to lose your self-control. If he calls you on the phone, say you gotta go and you'll ring him back, then drop the call before he does. Make him wait a while before actually calling back, too! Don't let him find out that inside, you are simply dying to have him back.

It might be very hard for you to keep from telling him how much you love him but even if he starts to come on to you it is important that you need to play a little hard to get. Doing so will build tension and make your attention and your time more valuable in his eyes. If you drop everything just to talk to him or see him, your time and attention is perceived as being less valuable and in essence, not worth having. Falling all over him will really hurt your chances of getting him back and it may put you right back at square one.

Now, while all of this is great news if you have been trying for some time to get your ex back, do proceed with caution. Take things slow and learn how to take control of the situation so you can come through to the other side of this breakup with the love of your life with you again.

By understanding how guys work and what you need to do to build that tension and bring him to his knees you can arise victorious with your self esteem and your relationship back better than it was before. Just guard your heart and don't allow yourself to be used. As wonderful as one night of passion might seem it is nothing compared to a lifetime of passionate nights.




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