Thursday, March 8, 2012

The Truth About Getting Your Girlfriend Back

By Eric Hastings Bistro


So, you've been working your tail off at getting your girlfriend back and you seem to be running out of steam. You have given everything that you've got to and you're just getting to the point where you have nothing more to give. You're not getting anything in return and you wonder what the sense is in continuing on with this whole master plan to win her heart back and live happily ever after. You're angry, you're depressed and most of all you're just tired.

You're tired of the garbage. You're tired of trying so hard and you feel like a big chunk of you has died. After all, if she did care, she would throw you a bone every once in a while, right? She would reach out to you or want to talk to you. She would miss you if you were important to you and on and on the endless dialogue goes. You are getting down in the dumps, my friend and you are spending way too much time focusing on what is wrong as well as thinking short term instead of long term.

How important is your girlfriend to you? Is she worth really getting yourself together and making a plan that might take a month or three months or six months to get her back? How much do you love her and is that love worth manning up and doing what is necessary to get her back? Would your attitude change if you knew without a doubt that on a certain day in the near future she would come back to you?

Being frustrated and upset is perfectly normal if you've gone through a breakup and it is the desire of your heart to get back together with your ex. You are going to have good days and bad. You are going to have times when you will want to throw up your hands in disgust and wish you never met her. Then five minutes later you're going to take it all back when you remember what it felt like to hold her in your arms. You are going to think that everything that you are doing is in vain and that she is never going to come back to you but the truth is that you will never know what is working and what isn't until you have her back. Does that make sense to you? You have no idea of how close she is to giving in until she breaks and comes crawling back to you saying that she made a huge mistake by breaking up with you.

You might be tempted to test the waters and try to get a feel for where you stand, but resist this voice inside your head that tells you to contact her. Calling her, texting her and snooping around will only put you back where you started from. And don't listen to the advice that tells you that you need to give her attention in order to get her back. She knows that you still want her back and if she doesn't then let her call you to test the waters and find out for herself but do not give in to this feeling that you need to tell her that you still love her. It is the one sure way that you will push her further away. I know it doesn't make sense but since when did women and relationships make sense? If she is worth it to you, you'll start doing the things that work instead of seeking to feed your own need for her attention right now.

If she is an important part of your life that you want back then you can do this. If getting her back in the long run is important to you then you'll do what is proven to work instead of listening to your gut for a change. Soon, you will be expected to call her all the time and text her throughout your day but until then you're just going to have to trust me. This is the stuff that will bring her around and get her back in your arms once again.




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