Thursday, May 26, 2011

Every single Relationship Will Come to an End

By Eidorian Tan


I assume it is important to remember that any relationship has a prevalent lifespan. In Junior High, that's about four days. As we get older, the lifespan increases.

But, there are certain relationships that are right for a period of time and then go awry. Most of us will only have one great love in our lives. The other relationships will terminate. That's why when I say I lost love, I understand that this is a natural process.

In my case, my girlfriend and I were thinking about ratcheting up our relationship. Her lease was about to end, and she wanted to move into my apartment. As we were spending most of our time there anyway, it made sense from a financial perspective.

But there is something significant about having separate places. I know I lost love because I couldn't handle her taking our relationship to this level. I guess the time span of our relationship was up because I wasn't willing to become more committed.

Now, I know I handled the status quo ineptly. I went to a friend's bachelor party and let's just say things got carried away. Word about the unrestrained buffoonery at the party got back to my girlfriend, naturally, and she dumped me. I lost love over the events of one night.

But, when I think back in connection with what unquestionably happened, the events of the bachelor party were in fact a counteraction to our talk with another of more commitment. I really don't think I would have behaved the way I did if I seriously needed her to move in. I lost love in view of I wasn't agreeable to go in the direction it was taking.

I'm happy I had the occasion to be in a relationship with my ex. But I don't presume she was the love of my life, my soul mate. Instead, she was someone with whom I obviously enjoyed spending time with. I loved her. I still love her. But, she is not the person with whom I see spending the rest of my life with.

I went through a wave of sadness the relationship and assessing what went wrong. I honestly was suffering when she said she required to expiry things. Sure, I understood that I had wounded her. But, I didn't wish her to depart my life completely.

I deduce what I required was for things to stay on the way they were. Barring, every relationship has to develop or be no more. As long as I wasn't willing to let it evolve, it had to be no more. In any relationship, there is a time to finish. And, for me, this was it. That's how I lost love.




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