Thursday, August 19, 2010

Getting Custody Of Your Children

By Carlton T. Driver

When a marriage gets to the point where either separation or divorce is the only path forward, one of the most difficult aspects to deal with is filing the child custody case. It means that you must deal with a whole range of feelings involving not only your past with the family, but also that you will have to address the difficulties that your children will experience as you move through the process.

If you have minor children in your family it is inescapable that you will need to deal with the nightmare of determining child custody when you divorce or separate. Instead of dwelling on the past, it is best if you can try to look forward to a new chapter in your life with your children. Looking toward the better days ahead for you and your children will arm you with the determination to continue on fighting for your rights as a parent, and for your children's right to enjoy a happier life under your care.

Being Certain That Your Child Will Be Under Your Care

Almost all parents will attempt everything they can to be insure that they will have their children under their care following any separation. If you have either filed, or are planning to file, for child custody, then you should certainly be working very hard on refining the approaches that will help you obtain the custody of your children.

Family Law experts will tell you that the best way to win a child custody case is to be prepared with sufficient information about the process that you are involved in. If you are already knowledgeable about the ins-and-outs of child custody matters, then you are less likely to be caught by surprise by your former partner when fighting for custody.

In addition, if you are informed about the details of the child custody process, you can explain it more easily to your child. You will be able to answer his or her questions on why this has to happen, why is it happening and what is in store for him or her after the process. To make it more certain that you will win the child custody case, you should make sure that you:

- Be concerned primarily about the welfare of the children at all times. Unfortunately, adults can, and often do, turn a child custody battle into a battle zone. They frequently don't realize that they are not the only ones who are feeling the tension that the situation produces. It is always the children who are left with no other alternative but to accept the decision that their parents have made. Although your love for your children is what drives your desire to have custody of them, it certainly does not justify treating them as a form of sacrifice, hurting them on the process.

- Write down all the concerns you have about the intervals when your child is in the custody of the other parent. Documenting instances of things that make you uneasy when your child is with the other parent can be an effective means of winning a child custody case.

- Make a list of all the reasons why winning the child custody case would be in the best interest of the children. Be certain that you not only list the reasons why the child should be with you, but ensure that you can explain these reasons thoroughly during the procedure. This will help you achieve custody when your case is heard.

About the Author:

No comments: