When your child is born, you don't normal foresee needing to seek child custody. Unfortunately it is happening more often lately, that the children become caught in the middle of their parents battle. Sometimes, the parents less than fuzzy feelings for each other get in the way of their love for their children and their desire to spend the most time with that child: causing the parents to try to one up the other. Honorable intentions are not always the driving force between parents actions in these battles. Regardless of your reasons for seeking child custody, we all need help, so here is some advice to keep in mind.
Your best option will always be to tell the truth. During your pursuit of child custody you will be asked lots of question, some even multiple times. A judge or a mediator will have even more questions if your case goes before one of them before you reach an agreement. It is imperative then for you to be honest. Be sure you don't exaggerate your answers or flat out lie. Trying to make the other parent look bad or yourself better will be tempting, but should be avoided. Stick to the facts by being honest and straightforward, especially if you are seeking more time with your children. If any lies or manipulation is found out, which in most cases it is, then your case will suffer for this.
There are some very specific reasons that sole custody is almost always awarded. If one parent has a drug habit, for example, it is likely that a judge will make sure the children live solely in a drug free home. Being up to date on current child custody court cases is a good idea. This is especially important if you might be on the "wrong" side of this type of child custody help. Lifestyle changes may be a necessity if you want the case to end in your favor.
Work with the other parent is very important. This will make you both look better if you have to take the matter to court. Look at things from their perspective. I am not saying that you have to give up and just let them have what they want. Do try to find a compromise that takes both parent's needs and expectations into account while keeping the children as safe and happy as possible. Beating the other person is not the goal, remember. It should be about making the situation as safe and as happy as you can for your children.
Seeking child custody help can be done for many reasons. But at the end of the day, these are the two things that matter. The goal of your situation should be to meet the needs of your children. Two is that if you have to plead your case, the more you know the better off you will be.
Your best option will always be to tell the truth. During your pursuit of child custody you will be asked lots of question, some even multiple times. A judge or a mediator will have even more questions if your case goes before one of them before you reach an agreement. It is imperative then for you to be honest. Be sure you don't exaggerate your answers or flat out lie. Trying to make the other parent look bad or yourself better will be tempting, but should be avoided. Stick to the facts by being honest and straightforward, especially if you are seeking more time with your children. If any lies or manipulation is found out, which in most cases it is, then your case will suffer for this.
There are some very specific reasons that sole custody is almost always awarded. If one parent has a drug habit, for example, it is likely that a judge will make sure the children live solely in a drug free home. Being up to date on current child custody court cases is a good idea. This is especially important if you might be on the "wrong" side of this type of child custody help. Lifestyle changes may be a necessity if you want the case to end in your favor.
Work with the other parent is very important. This will make you both look better if you have to take the matter to court. Look at things from their perspective. I am not saying that you have to give up and just let them have what they want. Do try to find a compromise that takes both parent's needs and expectations into account while keeping the children as safe and happy as possible. Beating the other person is not the goal, remember. It should be about making the situation as safe and as happy as you can for your children.
Seeking child custody help can be done for many reasons. But at the end of the day, these are the two things that matter. The goal of your situation should be to meet the needs of your children. Two is that if you have to plead your case, the more you know the better off you will be.
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